“HumanKind: Changing the World One Small Act At a Time” by Brad Aronson

“HumanKind: Changing the World One Small Act At a Time” by Brad Aronson

*I won this book through a GoodReads Giveaway

I’m not a huge fan of non-fiction. I don’t mind history books or biographies (even then, I’d rather a good novel), but personal development books are the lowest on my list. But every now and then I come across a title that sounds interesting… usually I’m disappointed. This was not one of those times. I loved the anecdotal nature of this book; I appreciate story-telling on a personal level.

This is an easy and quick read. Filled with heart-warming stories, this book is a lovely reminder of little ways we can change the world. Some of the stories are personal to the author, recounting how people helped him and his wife during her cancer treatments. Other stories detail the history behind some incredible non-profit organizations, or how small acts of kindness spread much further than the single recipient.

My only quibble with the book was toward the end when the author mentions his decision to quit going to the synagogue when he was a teenager. It was weirdly placed in the book, and didn’t really have relevance to the overall story. It just seemed like an awkward jab at religion in general; when the book was clearly written from a secular perspective.

Overall I would recommend reading this book if you’re looking to be inspired or if you’re looking for new ways to serve others.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/192805563X/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_9dIMFbX7EC0CS?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

“The Irony of Us” by Emily N. Kay

“The Irony of Us” by Emily N. Kay

I won this book in a GoodReads Giveaway.

Where to start? This book sounded like a great YA lit book, and in many ways it was. It has the right elements: teenaged angst, a love triangle, gratuitous cursing, a coming out, and a prom. But honestly, this book is bad. I mean the story is fine: two best friends, having known each other since birth, struggle to navigate friendship and relationships as they have disparate interests and friend groups during their junior year; they have conflict, they sort of resolve their conflict, they grow as people, sort of.

Here is where I struggle with this book. First, the author comes very close to the two main characters growing as people, there are glimpses of Stella and Marie recognizing why they are struggle in their relationships, but they never quite get there; there’s almost and epiphany, but not quite. Secondly, and I’m not sure if the author isn’t a native English speaker or not, or she just had a really bad editor, but the grammar is terrible. The author switches between tenses (mixing present and past tense in the same sentence), she would often use the wrong form of the verb, and sometimes she would just use the wrong word altogether, for example, throughout the entire book she uses the word corporate when she meant cooperate. I’m not entirely unconvinced that this wasn’t written entirely by a bot.

If you don’t care about grammar or vocabulary, then this might be the book for you; otherwise, it’s really not worth the time; which is unfortunate, because the story has such promise.

https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B077Q2HC5X&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_MrOvFb69P6Z59

“Mad, Bad & Dangerous to Know” by Samira Ahmed

“Mad, Bad & Dangerous to Know” by Samira Ahmed

I received this book from a GoodReads giveaway.

The book follows the story of two young women, Khayyam (an American of French and Muslim-Indian parents) in modern day France (where she spends her summers) and Leila (a Muslim from the Ottoman Empire) crisscrossing from Turkey to England to France.

Khayyam is an aspiring art historian, the child of multi-cultural academics, she is an over-achiever, slightly quirky, and filled with self-doubt and angst. While not wanting to be defined by her relationships with men, she spends a lot of time (like many teenaged girls) obsessing over boys. Do they like her, why don’t they like her, how can she make them jealous, will she ever understand them? She’s also angry. Angry at men, angry at history, angry at white people. While she vacations in Paris and eats pastries.

Leila on the the other hand, is the concubine of the Pasha. Given literally no choice and no freedom, she makes the dangerous decision to take a lover (a Christian, her Giaour, an infidel). Both pay a hefty price for this betrayal. Unfortunately, there isn’t much more to reveal of Leila without spoilers, and what remains is rather scant anyway.

The author does an excellent job of revealing Leila’s story in bits, unfolding like a mystery through the discoveries that Khayyam makes in the modern day. Unfortunately, because of the belabored point that Ahmed is making with this novel, Leila’s story feels unfinished and I believe short-changed. Which brings me to my biggest complaint about this novel. The point that Ahmed wishes to get across is that there are marginalized people throughout history, and there is little doubt that women are the most marginalized, especially women of color.

I don’t dispute that there are marginalized groups of people, or that women often take the brunt of this silencing. What I do take umbrage with is the manner in which Ahmed makes this point. Belabored isn’t strong enough, hammered does slightly more justice, perhaps the two combined is the best way to describe it.

Ahmed is clearly a talented writer, but this novel lacks any subtlety or beauty in craft. The point that women have been marginalized can be made through story-telling, it can be made through the choices the characters have to make… does it need to be shouted at the reader over and over and over and over again? It’s as though the author doesn’t believe her audience is smart enough to understand the point she is trying to make. But, I get it.

We all get it.

I found it more of a distraction from what could have been a very effective and beautiful novel.

https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1616959894/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_2yWtFbBFJS2W1

Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life… and Maybe the World by Admiral William H. McRaven

Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life… and Maybe the World by Admiral William H. McRaven

I’m generally not a big fan of “self-help” style books. I typically find them simple “common sense,” repetitive, and syrupy. This is not one of those books. Don’t get me wrong, his points are simple, but they’re not syrupy, and he’s not repetitive… which is why this book is so short, just over 125 pages, just ten chapters. You can read it quickly, but his life lessons are applicable to many situations in life.

This would be a great book for a new graduate.

“How the Penguins Saved Veronica” by Hazel Prior

“How the Penguins Saved Veronica” by Hazel Prior

I won this book in a GoodReads Giveaway.

I loved so much about this book! The characters are flawed, and fun, and relatable. I love Veronica; her spunky, snarky personality reminded me of my own grandfather. I loved learning about the Adelie penguins, and a glimpse of Antarctica (one of the few places I had zero interest in visiting until I read this book). It was a cute love story, a study in family and what that means, and a coming of age story all wrapped up with adorable penguins. You’re heart will break with Veronica, it will be mended along with her as well. The only thing I didn’t love about the book was there were several heavy-handed, and weirdly presented environmentalist passages. Generally the author was very good about presenting the real threats that the environment, and Antarctica and the penguins specifically, face within the flow of the story; and had she left it at that, I think it would have been less off-putting and rather effective in getting her message across. However, there are two specific passages where it seemed very agenda-y. It was so blatantly not within the flow of the story that it pulled you out. I’d rather learn a lesson within the story rather than being pulled from the story to hear it.

Also, here’s a photo of my wonderful grandfather. He died earlier this year, and I miss him more than I can express.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50519007-how-the-penguins-saved-veronica

“Crushing It” by Lorelei Parker

“Crushing It” by Lorelei Parker

First, I won this book in a GoodReads giveaway.

If you’re looking for a relatively predictable, feel-good love story, this is it. I enjoy a good light read, but I’m not a fan of “romance” novels, they tend to have graphic sex scenes, that just aren’t my jam. I wish there had been a warning on this book, since there were several of those… it’s fine, I just skip ahead.

Beyond that, the characters are fairly predictable: the mysterious, handsome, “good-guy” stranger; the dirt-bag, cookie-cutter handsome former crush; the slightly neurotic, brilliant, gorgeous, gamer girl heroine with crazy dyed hair; the strong, slightly judgey best friend; and the over-bearing boss. The plot plays exactly how you expect it to: two guys sort-of vying for the affection of the heroine, while she neurotically allows her life to implode, until she has a life-changing epiphany and the girl gets the guy, and the dirt-bag gets his just desserts.

If you’re looking for a comfortable read to escape reality, this is the book for you.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51003469-crushing-it

“The Problem of Pain” by C.S. Lewis

“The Problem of Pain” by C.S. Lewis

This is a short book (162 pages), but packed with many, many nuggets of wisdom (seriously, so many underlined passages). Keep in mind this was written in 1940 by an academic, I found the language scholarly, and not a little dry, but it just took a few pages to get the rhythm and flow.

The gist of the book is that pain is the result of the abuse of freedom by man, not the result of an unloving or vengeful God. If viewed properly, pain can, and should bring us into a closer and more harmonious relationship with God and man.

This is one of many passages that paint a beautiful picture of God and our relationship with Him.

“‘To him that overcometh I will give a white stone, and in the stone a new name written, which no man knoweth saving he that receiveth it.’ What can be more a man’s own than this new name which even in eternity remains a secret between God and him? And what shall we take this secrecy to mean? Surely, that each of the redeemed shall forever know and praise some one aspect of the Divine beauty better than any other creature can. Why else were individuals created, but that God, loving all infinitely, should love each differently? And this difference, so far from impairing, floods with meaning the love of all blessed creatures for one another, the communion of the saints. If all experienced God in the same way and returned Him an identical worship, the song of the Church triumphant would have no symphony, it would be like an orchestra in which all the instruments played the same note. Aristotle has told us that a city is a unity of unlikes, and St. Paul that a body is a unity of different members. Heaven is a city, and a Body, because the blessed remain eternally different: a society, because each has something to tell all the others–fresh and ever fresh news of the ‘My God’ whom each finds in Him whom all praise as ‘Our God'” (pages 154-155).

I don’t agree with aspects of Lewis’s theology, but appreciate his ability address difficult aspects of Christianity; and pain is one of those seeming difficulties. Lewis shows us that pain is not the problem, the problem is in our relating to Him and to each other.

Lewis, C. S. The Problem of Pain. HarperCollins, 2001.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13650513-the-problem-of-pain